A Fresh Look at Being Human: Evolving into Spirit Identification
Saturday, June 10, 2006 (02:47:04)

Posted by Cougar

"If I am guided to be alone how do I deal with the feelings of loneliness? I have heard that I need to love myself and be okay with myself and then I won't feel as lonely. What does that mean "love yourself" and how does one do that?"

To love yourself, you have to forgive yourself. Everything that you’ve done can be forgiven. No matter how egotistical or unempathic you’ve been, you can forgive yourself and simply stop doing what no longer serves you. The universe doesn’t want you to beat yourself up. It only wants you to find peace and will guide you towards it when you’re ready to listen to your inner voice, synchronicity, and well placed written and spoken guidance.

You also need to observe any addictive tendencies regarding being with others. Many sensitive people (who are the type of people that would be drawn towards a book such as this) can easily get away from their own issues by tuning in to another person’s experience. In such cases, the desire to be with another is used to get away from one’s own self. As you resolve your own issues, you can be present with yourself or others in a needless manner.

If you feel loneliness or any other unpleasant feelings come up, utilize them by feeling them. Let them be your teacher. They need not lead you to self destruction...the pain is always something you can handle. Your ego will want you to believe that you should never feel pain, and if you do feel pain you won’t be able to handle it. This is ridiculous. People can survive through all types of pain when they are pushed to their limits. In comparison to many challenges humans face, moving through loneliness is easy. However it’s also easy to avoid in a manner that is societally condoned (be a “social” person, never live alone, never spend a weekend night alone). Break away from any patterns that you are using to avoid yourself. Journal about what kinds of things you actually enjoy doing as an individual and then do these things. It helps to write things down because it’s easy to forget that you enjoy (or once did enjoy) anything if you are feeling depressed or stuck.

Discover the full, glowing, beautiful power of yourself in your aloneness. It is liberation to find yourself. In doing so you’ll truly have so much to offer others. You’ll also have more confidence in the ability of others to find comfort with themselves...and thus be able to be a more effective teacher/healer along your path.