New Age Gathering

Letting Go and Finding Our Sense of Independence


Letting Go and Finding Our Sense of Independence
By Lisa Sommer

When someone is clearly and repeatedly pushing us away, and we feel a certain resistance to the change, do we continue to hold on and swim against the tides of the situation, or do we let that person or situation go peacefully and gracefully? Does that person or situation need to be held onto or would it be best to let go? In many ways, only our heart knows the answer. Being honest with ourselves and all involved is the first step in contributing to outcomes that truly serve the highest good of all.

Sometimes we need to let go and also to allow ourselves to be let go of, in order to find our independence in the truest sense...to come to the realization that we have all we need within us, and that perhaps it is our emotional attachments to our judgments and expectations that cause our suffering and lack of feeling truly independent. Freedom comes when we can allow what comes into our lives without judgment or expectation that it be any more or less than what it is. Emotional freedom comes from a place of higher awareness where we can see with a heart of gratitude for what we have learned through finding value in all our experiences and accepting each's choices without judgment or expectation. When we can see how we have grown to this point right now, and can begin to understand the patterns of our lives in all their aspects and whether they are truly helping us or holding us back, we are moving forward in conscious awareness and spiritual freedom.

Our choices shape our lives and our relationships in whatever way we are willing and ready to experience according to what we put into them and are willing to give, not only to others, but also to ourselves. Our paths in life are not always easy, but when we can see how all in our life has purpose and has led us to where we are right now, we may come to realize that perhaps what felt like a distance, separation or loss truly was a blessing that brought us to a place of greater opportunity and growth that we may not have arrived at otherwise. In this awareness, we may also find a greater level of understanding and peace.

I am reminded of a scene in the movie "Because Of Winn Dixie" where two of the children saw what appeared to be a mother horse kicking at her baby as if to hurt it. The girls were very upset by this and did not understand. One of the grown-ups explained that this is sometimes the way of nature...that the pony was clinging too long to it's mother and it was time for it to let go. When we hold on too tightly to something or someone, we hold back growth...our own growth as well as the growth of others and prevent ourselves from fully realizing all that we are.

It occurred to me that sometimes our relationships with others get to a point where perhaps we cling too long also, and it prevents us from growing any further. We may find ourselves making choices that appear to be pushing each other away and possibly causing pain and misunderstanding in the process, but perhaps a certain distance is just what we need at that particular stage of our growth in order to let go and get a sense of our own independence so we can continue to grow "up" into the higher realms of conscious awareness of ourselves, each other, and all that we are.

The growth process involves choices and if we continue to resist and swim against the currents of the present situation, we struggle and move very slowly if at all. Our choice to allow for change that clearly wants to and needs to occur, helps all involved in many beneficial ways that contribute to our growth and serve the highest good; even though it may appear at first to be otherwise. Part of our growth is to learn to trust in the process of life, to trust ourselves in our choices, and to trust that the wisdom of the Universe that brought us to this point in our lives, will continue to carry us through, guide us and move us forward through whatever comes our way...and that we will rise up and find that we have an awareness of greater depth, independence, understanding, appreciation, peace, joy, and love within ourselves for ourselves, and for all in our lives than we ever realized before.

(C) Copyright 2006 Lisa Sommer

*With much heart-felt appreciation, gratitude and love, I give thanks to all who inspired this writing.

Posted by Cougar Sunday, December 30, 2007 (03:26:23)